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dog asleep with train

Seriously. Farmer. We had her put down Tuesday morning and every emotion known to man was in play around here. There were weepy tears, sad, resigned smiles, inappropriate laughter, so much gratitude for this animal that graced our family for 14 years and witnessed – oh, everything that happens in a family in 14 years.

How many times over the years – 5? 8? had we gravely agreed that she wouldn’t be with us much longer? (Link to post). From the thousands of dollars and hours of filling her with fluids from her (misdiagnosed) kidney failure, to her countless escapes (always drawn to the busiest streets) her tens of pounds of chocolate she’s consumed over the years (2 pounds of Godivas 2 Christmases ago) her run-ins with various toothy woodland creatures, her monstrous tumors.

But then I remember where I found her, banked up against the cage bars in the city pound on the south side of Chicago. I would go check out the dogs when I was supposed to be buying props for the photo studio. We joke about her days living on the streets of the south side- flashing gang signals and chasing other dogs off her corner. That dog was tough as nails and wasn’t about to let any random outside forces take her down.

dog running with ball

I didn’t want her. I was looking for a cuter dog, a mutt, yes, but one with a goofy face and perhaps a little smaller. I was trying to get a duplicate of the dog I had just lost to Anemia.

But I kept returning to the cage of this dog who would curiously fling herself against the bars for some petting, and once that was underway, would practically melt into the pleasure of human contact and attention. She didn’t bark like the other dogs, she showed me what she needed and waited until I delivered.

That first night after bringing her home, I sat on one couch, staring at her across from me on the other couch. She was soaking through the blanket I had placed under her after 3 baths that removed maybe half the grime and pee and residue from the city streets. She tucked into a rawhide unapologetically, nothing like the funny, dainty skittish dog I was replacing with this new beast. I was a little intimidated by her.

I cried. I called Christian in tears (we weren’t yet married; I think he was freshly separated at this point). “I don’t think I love this dog” I wailed. He told me to bring her to his apartment, and she promptly peed all over his carpet when we got there. He was obviously smitten with such a brazen beast. I think he liked Farmer, too. (ba dum chhh!)

We acclimated to Farmer and quickly discovered her obsession with fetch, and her quirky way of snapping at us to communicate. She would repeatedly dunk her entire head in her water cooler when we took her to the dog park, and she was anything but graceful. We grew with her and she melded into our weird blended family.

dog yawning

At the end she was our version of the demented grandpa who paces around the house farting and getting underfoot, snapping at us randomly, disappearing from home, only to be returned by the police (twice!), yelling at strangers one minute and trembling uncontrollably the next, a ball of vulnerable, helpless, nerves.

I think maybe the single thing that won me over was her ability to love us, unconditionally. Her excitement at seeing us, her tail spinning around like a helicopter, her banking into us, resting her chin on our feet in bed. But especially her tolerance and nurturing of the kids. She’s been a plaything, a bed, a chair, a ball-fetching partner, a canvas. Always without complaint.

For more Farmer fun, read these posts: How to Have Fun at Your Dog’s Expense and Farmer’s Secret Life.

 

bex a farmer

15 Comments

  1. D Baseley
    07/18/2014 / 10:42 am

    Oh, I was wondering if we would get something to read about her. I was surprised to see she was so big! I thought you would be a small dog person. I am a lifetime big dog person (the bigger the better) who currently has only one dog now-small, about 42#. Thanks for sharing Farmer and her pix!

    • 07/18/2014 / 9:52 pm

      I am a lifetime big dog person as well- only recently have I entertained the possibility of getting a smaller dog- I sort of love Jack Russells and Dachsunds. We’ll see, though, I’m sure we’ll end up getting another medium-sized mutt at some point. What kind of dog do you have? Are you digging having a smaller dog?

      • Dianna B
        07/19/2014 / 1:34 pm

        Growing up we always had mutts -big mutts. For the last 25 years we have had Alaskan malamutes. All rescues, some really big, some needing to lose weight, usually with “issues”. Gloria is brown. With the story from the rescue and a little Google/YouTube research we think she is a Black Mouth Cur. it is a Southern US sporting dog. She looks a lot like Farmer. I will try to post a picture. Gloria was just so darn cute and small, we were letting her get away with murder. I took her back to training. We have finished Therapy Dog training twice (long story) and are working on getting registered. After our malamute passed in January, I have been thinking a small dog. But I really miss my big furry head to kiss. So I don’t know.

  2. 07/18/2014 / 3:23 pm

    Oh, Jeanette, I’m so sorry. I know how difficult it is to say goodbye to someone who has loved you so well for so long. Sending love your way.

    • 07/18/2014 / 9:54 pm

      You are so incredibly sweet, and thank you so much. It sucks, but honestly most people know what it’s like and it’s the sort of stuff that brings people together. XO

  3. Brett
    07/18/2014 / 7:23 pm

    Sorry to hear the sad news about Farmer 🙁

  4. 07/18/2014 / 8:45 pm

    Oh friend, I am so sorry.
    Farmer was a good friend to all of you.
    And now she has wings.
    Sending love and chocolate.

    • 07/18/2014 / 10:00 pm

      Thanks for the love and chocolate- it’s coming in handy right now, and you are darlin’. Smooches to you.

  5. 07/18/2014 / 9:33 pm

    Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about Farmer. It is so hard to say goodbye to a pet. Love to you and your family. xoxo

    • 07/18/2014 / 10:01 pm

      Aw, thanks Andrea! It’s always hard to lose our little buddies.

  6. 07/18/2014 / 10:16 pm

    So sad – but so sweet. You couldn’t have written a nicer eulogy.

    • 07/19/2014 / 7:44 am

      Oh, thanks so much. It’s amazing how cathartic it can be to reflect and write about someone…

  7. 07/21/2014 / 9:49 pm

    Sorry Jeanette, he sounded like a really good dog.

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