Law of Attraction For People Who Hated The Secret

Had my introduction to the Law of Attraction been through watching The Secret, I probably would have rejected the whole idea of it immediately, and lived out the rest of my days a sad, unconscious boob.

As it were, I first heard about the Law of Attraction through listening to Jess Lively’s podcast, The Lively Show. She has this amazing gift for breaking down highly abstract concepts in a way that not only make them understandable, but also modern, fascinating, and exciting.

Jess Lively

So many little dark little crevices in my brain have come alive by listening to her ramble on about one topic or another, and Law of Attraction is one of her favorites (and now mine) to explore.

Have you seen The Secret? I’m assuming if you’re reading this, you tried to watch it, became overwhelmed by all of the ethereal, dated, echoey voices, and flipped it off 20 minutes in. (I haven’t read the book, so maybe that is easier to digest.)

Why? Why do teachers of consciousness and New Age thinking keep falling back on these hokey methods to share what are incredibly profound and important ideas?

My life has been forever bettered by the concepts I’ve studied over the past couple of years, and it took me far too long to resonate with it, because I was always repelled by the overuse of purple clouds, bright aura beams, and time warp video effects. I like my Law of Attraction clean and clear, modern and well-designed.

Isn’t it fascinating that the exact same concepts can be presented in 2 completely different styles, and only one will hook you?

I feel lucky that I was introduced to these concepts by someone I admired and connected to, because they resonate with me on such a profound level and have become what I always needed religion to be.

By listening to Jess, I discovered Abraham. Abraham, the group of non-physical entities who are channeled through Esther Hicks. I’m obsessed. I’m also pretty sure I wouldn’t be listening to these entities had it not been for my introduction through Jess, who professed her initial cynicism about al this woo woo stuff as well.

If Jess was my intro to Law of Attraction, Abraham sealed the deal. I made a big decision to curb my cynicism and listen to what Abraham had to say with an open mind. I made myself be the type of person who could be open to new ideas, despite my brain screaming at me otherwise.

You know what? Everything that Abraham/Esther says is so spot on it’s a little overwhelming. When I listen to what they have to say, I know I’ve stumbled upon truth.

Esther Hicks Quote

Like Jess said she did for a while, I kept listening to Abraham on YouTube, with half of my attention on waiting for her to screw up or contradict what she had said previously, or to simply not have an answer for someone. After a while I stopped caring, and let myself absorb her/their messages.

So. All of this writing to get to the good stuff. Let’s learn about the main ideas of the Law of Attraction, presented to you as simply and non-mystically as I can. (And please bear in mind, I’m a relative newbie at all of this stuff, so I’ll give you Law of Attraction as I know it thus far, and if you’re curious to find out more, check out the resources I provide at the end of the post.)

What is The Law of Attraction?

Simply put, the law of Attraction states that like attracts like. Specifically, what you choose to think about will bring more of that into your life. When I was a kid, I knew this instinctively, but as I grew older and less aware, I didn’t really think about it anymore. (Think about all the things you knew as a kid that have since become dulled or completely blocked out. So much, right?)

In order to jive with this, you have to understand that everything is made up of energy, and that energy constantly flits about looking for its match.

If this is the case, then if your thoughts tend to linger on how little money/love/self esteem/happiness you have, that is what you will attract. If you think about how much weight/problems/stress you have, you will attract more of that.

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It is only when we can shift our thoughts to what we want, and how we want to become, that we can start bringing that into our lives. But! We can’t just obsessively shift our thoughts to what we want, while still holding onto the reality that we don’t have them. At that point, we still have those pesky negative thoughts creeping around and continuing to attract negative outcomes.

See how this is a bit of a mind fuck?

They key to this whole deal is that we need to figure out a way to actually feel like we are already manifesting what we want. For instance, close your eyes for a minute and think of the one thing you want most in this world that you don’t yet have. Now picture every single amazing, wonderful, fantastic feeling you would have in your body and mind if you had what you wanted. These are the feelings you have to conjure up consistently if you want the law of attraction to work in your favor.

Get it? I hope so.

How Can we Use the Law of Attraction?

First off, the law of attraction is always working. That’s the nature of laws; they are always in play, i.e. the law of gravity. Whether the law of attraction is working the way you want it to or not is ultimately up to you. If you are like me, you will suddenly start beating yourself up for not being able to think positively at all times.

The best advice I’ve heard recently is to be patient and loving and gentle with yourself. If you were to start teaching a kid how to read and they stumbled over the same word again and again, would you let out a loud groan of angst and get all pissy? Or would you reassure them to keep trying, and give them a sweet little pat on the back and a cookie?


I have not gotten this down by any means. But have I experienced just enough to make me keep learning and coming back for more? Yes. We all need something to believe in and work toward in order to become the best version of ourselves.

Now tell me what your experience and/or thoughts are about this. It’s so interesting to me to see people vehemently opposing the idea of Law of Attraction for whatever reasons.

More Law of Attraction Resources

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My Favorite Books on Self Improvement (So far)

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